I’m really struggling with my little man at the moment. Most of the time he is lovely, funny and a joy to be with. But then there are times when I just feel like the worst Mum in the world. Biting is not a nice habit, but my son is doing just that to all and sundry when he doesn’t get his own way.
Regular readers will know that we meet up with our NCT group every Monday afternoon. For me, these meetups are becoming really stressful. My son is always tired in the afternoon, so it’s never the best time to put him in a group situation anyway. Although his language is really good now, I guess he is still way behind the others in being able to properly express himself. His way of dealing with someone who takes a toy he wants to or is playing with is to push/pull them, grab their faces and if all that fails to get what he wants, he just bites them, HARD. It is obviously, very upsetting for his playmate, as of today, I think he has now eaten his way through the whole group. It’s obviously very upsetting for my friends and I just feel like a rubbish Mum.
I take him out of the situation, explain over and over again that he’s hurting people and explain a better way of talking through what he would like to achieve, but still, he bites first and thinks afterwards. He always has to apologise to his friend, they obviously aren’t so happy to accept it.
I know all kids go through stages, that doesn’t help when it’s your child inflicting pain on another. He’s a big boy and his bites are not little nips.
My friends are supportive, but having been the parent of a child that’s been bitten before I know how you start feeling. Aaargh! What to do? How long before we’re on to a different problem? How do I stop my son’s cannibal tendencies?
I just dread that his friends just won’t want to ‘play’ with him before long. Kids speak their minds, I wouldn’t blame them.
It’s so annoying when you know that actually know’s it’s the wrong thing to do. Is it worst because he’s an only child? Is he spoilt? Probably? The guilt of not giving him a brother or sister? Is it somehow more acceptable to have this issue with a sibling? I don’t know. It’s late, I’m tired, but worried. He can be such a loveable little thing, I hate seeing this side of him. Why can’t I seem to teach him to deal with the situation differently?
Biting is not a nice habit, I know he knows that, where am I going wrong?