Maybe not so much these days, but when I was younger I was totally obsessed by my hair. We’d had DIY hair cuts at home as kids and I hated my hair. It’s always tended to be fine and flyaway. One day I used my savings and went to the hairdressers in Aldershot with a friend. I had a Princess Di style haircut and I felt a million dollars. The cut was shorter than I’d had before, was shaped and transformed my face. Does your hair give you confidence? Well yes, I’d say as a pre-teen it certainly did. It also helped me feel braver when we moved to Oxfordshire and I had to make new friends as a lanky 14-year-old.
My natural hair colour is mid brown, to me it’s boring and has no interest. I’ve always been a bit shy really, I’m never going to be the life and soul of the party, but my hair has often helped me feel more confident. The day I discovered hair dyes and peroxide could transform my appearance as well as a certain haircut, was a revelation. Through my late teens and early twenties I went through a number of hair transformations – from really bleached blonde to burgundy and every colour in between. Add in the must have 80’s perm and boy did I probably look a sight. Thank god this was all before the digital age.
I remember clearly one day, my hairdresser looking at my hair and telling me point-blank that I had to stop bleaching it. My hair was breaking off, it needed a break from all the abuse I’d been throwing at it. My hair was falling out. It scared me to death. I don’t think I’m particularly vain, but the thought of losing hair didn’t sit well with me.
Does your hair give you confidence? Yes I think it really does. It’s certainly something people often remember from a first encounter isn’t it. When I was pregnant with my son, my hair felt so lush. It really thickened up, I got married when I was six months pregnant, and my hair had so much more volume than ever before, it was fab. It gave me an extra boost when I really needed it.
Then of course, after my son arrived, my ‘extra pregnancy’ hair started to fall out. I knew it would, but it’s still quite alarming when you see it happening. I’d love having more volume in my hair, and knew that fine and flyaway was going to make a return. But it also made me realise how lucky I really was. I had friends who’d lost hair going through Chemo and knew a couple of people and children with alopecia. Really I had nothing to complain about.
I’ll turn 50 next year and I guess in the years ahead my hair may thin some more, the grey hairs are definitely making an appearance, under my blonde highlights. But actually going grey doesn’t bother me at all. I’m hoping I’ll take after my gran and have lovely tonal shades of graduated grey through my hair. Time will tell.
How about you, does your hair give you confidence? What would you do if you hair was thinning out?
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