Monkey was 4 and half earlier this week, he is growing up fast and starts full time school in September – how has that happened? I find it hard to believe that he will be 5 in December. Very scary. But, it’s lovely watching him develop and become a real little boy. I’m sure that so much will change for us this year, I’m trying to prepare him (and if I’m totally honest, ME!) for the changes ahead. Our time together is precious, but I also want him to be aware of what lies ahead in September. So we’ve been trying full days at Nursery School.
Monkey has his 15 funded hours and loves going to Nursery School. He’s quite quiet and has one kindred spirit at school, I think they are pretty inseparable. He’s been going every morning and at Easter the children were offered the chance to stay all day. Of course, this isn’t funded. I decided that April was too early, and I couldn’t afford it either. But I had it my mind that after the May half term it would be a good idea to send him for a few sessions.
I’d got some funds put aside and decided that Tuesday and Thursday full days at Nursery School would work well for both of us. It would give me a couple of days to blog full on, and would give him a gentle introduction to what the future holds. He started last Thursday.
I’ll be honest, I was a little nervous. I wasn’t convinced that he’d ever used the toilets at school. We’ve had a number of frantic runs down the lane to get home because he was bursting. I was prepared for wet clothes. I had a quiet word with his key worker, but she assured me he did use the toilets. Oh ok, well he probably needs a little prompt about after lunch, I’m sure he hasn’t done a poo at school before! Monkey does like his privacy for that particular function!
So the day passed, no phone call with any issues. It was time to pick him up. He’s had a good day, a few wobbles during and after lunch, but he was reassured and has been fine since. He hadn’t wet himself. All was good. His buddy G doesn’t do all day sessions, so I guess that was something else to get used to.
I did notice a whiff, but thought he’d just trumped. We walked home and he was quite chatty. Then he dashed into the toilet and started to cry. Sorry Mummy. What’s the matter? Then I saw, bless him, he was covered in poo. It was quite a shock as he’d never had a poo accident, not even through potty training. Ok, never mind darling, we’ll get you in the shower. It was obvious that he’d been in a bit of a mess for a while.
I tried gently to coax it out of him. When did it happen? Why didn’t you tell anyone? Why didn’t you use the toilet? But I didn’t want to upset him any more or make it a big issue for going on another full day on Tuesday. Never mind, it will be ok.
We were off to Legoland on the Friday (more on that coming soon), so I couldn’t talk to school until Monday. Monkey and I had talked about the toilets at school and I asked him to show me where they were on Monday, just to try and reinforce the point. I had a quiet word with his actual teacher. I know all children have accidents, I do think a little more attention should have been given to a child on his first full day, but never mind. The issue was raised and I hoped Tuesday would go smoothly.
Well Tuesday came around, and Monkey had been to the toilet before school. The pressure was off. He had a lovely time, all was good.
Today, he hadn’t been to the toilet before school, will he remember to go at school? I’m nervous, anxious for him. We will see, fingers crossed!
Are you children having settling days before they start school? Or are your children at school, can you remember this process? Would love to hear your experiences too.