Project 365 2021 Week 41-42 Day 282-295 The fortnight ended with us losing our brother in law, and left us all feeling rather reflective.
Sunday 10th October – Day 282
We had a date with James Bond to see Daniel Craig’s last outing as 007. The first time we’ve been to the cinema since before the first lockdown. Good but too long in our opinion. I was amazed to find we were pretty much the only people in a packed screening wearing masks. Didn’t make me relax much. Unlike Brewster who was living his best life at home.
Monday 11th October – Day 283
The first day of a new working schedule for me but a busy one as we have a big awards event later this week to finalise. Fudge seems to have got the balance right, doesn’t he?
Our BIL finally came home this afternoon with a care package in place.
Tuesday 12th October – Day 284
The flowers from my leaving bouquet are still looking lovely.
I spent some time working with my boss helping with preparations for Thursday’s awards event before bringing things home to complete.
Wednesday 13th October – Day 285
I was drying my hair this morning when Dad rang me to say that Mum had been taken into the hospital late last night with a suspected mini-stroke. She’d had one a few years ago and all the signs were the same. He’d call back as and when he had more information.
Pippi decided to help me with some work to keep my mind off things as I’m working today instead of Friday to help with the final prep ahead of tomorrow’s event. Unfortunately, I can’t be there in person this year as I’d need to be away from home overnight. Fingers crossed I can make it work next year.
My boss came over to pick everything up and give me a much-needed hug.
A call from Dad to say that the doctors had run all sorts of tests, no bleed to the brain and that weren’t convinced that it was a TIA after all. She’d be kept under observation for a few hours but there was a chance she’d be home later in the day. They would arrange transport rather than Dad needing to collect her.
Thursday 14th October – Day 286
I’d told Dad I’d wait up to hear from him to know Mum was home but fell asleep when he still hadn’t called by midnight. He rang at 2.30 UK time, she was home, they were shattered and were going to bed. She’s got some changes to her meds and will need a follow-up scan but hopefully, all is ok.
Our work Awards Event went well by all accounts.
Two little kittens prove once again that all you need is a bit of love.
Friday 15th October – Day 287
I nipped into town first thing to pick a few bits up and get something my SIL needed and then popped over to see her and my BIL. Hard to see him looking so frail but he didn’t look as bad as I’d expected really.
I’ve got today off and am making the most of it by catching up with one of my NCT group for lunch in one of our favourite places that I’ve not been able to visit since before the first lockdown. We’d decided to get there before lunch and just as well we did, as we got the last table in The Milkshed. I had their Spanish Eggs special which was delicious and it was so nice to catch up with my friend.
We had a bit of a breakthrough with Maths homework, all completed in 40 minutes with no meltdowns. What a relief.
Our SIL was told that our BIL only had a couple of days left, although we all knew where this was going, it was a big shock, we thought we had a few months with him.
Saturday 16th October – Day 288
We all needed a bit of a chill-out day after a busy and emotional week.
Sunday 17th October – Day 289
We’ve not been out for a walk in so long as I’ve not been able to get into my walking boots after the broken toe saga. Finally, I could get them on without any pain, so we headed off to Stowe, found some conkers and just enjoyed a few hours in the autumn sunshine. I even managed to persuade my son to pose in ‘his tree’ for that traditional visit shot.
We popped in to see our BIL on the way home.
Monday 18th October – Day 290
Once work was done I headed over to sit with our BIL and keep my SIL company for a few hours. We wouldn’t treat an animal the way we treat humans. When the outcome is irrefutable I just can’t understand how this is in anyone’s interest. It’s hard to witness.
As my son had done all of his Maths on Friday he had a no homework afternoon. The thought of revising for any of his assessments this week didn’t enter his head of course.
Tuesday 19th October – Day 291
I had an ultrasound scan booked at the county hospital for the lump on my thyroid. The traffic driving there is always horrific as is trying to find a parking spot, so I decided to catch the train and bus and save on the stress. I was amazed that I was pretty much the only person on the train wearing a mask and not everyone wore one on the bus either. Considering that this bus service goes to both of the large hospital sites in Oxford, what does it say for the people using the services.
Anyway, I got to the hospital with time to spare, so worked out where I needed to go and then grabbed a coffee and pastry. The scan went well, the lump is benign and won’t be operated on. So I now wait to hear back from the consultant on where we go next.
The OH picked me up from the station and I was home well before my son finished school.
Wednesday 20th October – Day 292
To add to the drama of everything, our great-nephew was admitted to hospital last night with his Mum.
The kittens are five months old today and to celebrate, Pippi was spayed and had her microchip fitted at the same time! I dropped her off at the Vets and then came home to work. I’d swapped my day off due to yesterday’s appointment time. The vet rang at lunchtime to let me know all had gone well and that we could pick Pippi up at 3 pm.
I’d opted to have a vest provided for her as cones are always a nightmare and it wouldn’t prevent Fudge from getting close to her operation site. I thought that would be the stress-free option. Wrong!! When we got her home, the neck of the vest was around her waist, the poppers were undone and she was out of it within seconds of getting out of her carrier. Got her back in it and it was huge, no wonder she’d escaped and within a couple of minutes, she was out of it again. A quick dash to my boss to pick up the cone she had, tried that, got out of it in seconds. I rang the vet, even on the tightest setting the cone was too big, as is the collar I’d bought for the kittens to wear when they finally go outside. So I left my son in charge of kitten control and raced over to the vet to compare options. They had a much smaller vest so I swapped it for the one they’d originally fitted and off I went again.
It took 3-4 hours to get to the scene in this photo. She was still getting her front legs out of the vest but eventually, she calmed down. I wasn’t overall hopefully she’d still be in it come the morning.
Thursday 21st October – Day 293
Little Miss Houdini had indeed managed to get herself out of the vest overnight but no damage seems to have been done.
I was working in the afternoon to cover a meeting so headed round to see my SIL and BIL for a few hours in the morning. He’s now confined to the special bed and has deteriorated a lot since Monday. He held my hand at one point but mostly he was sleeping.
My son made scones at school, he doesn’t like them. That’s a shame.
Our great nephew was released from the hospital late tonight thankfully.
Friday 22nd October – Day 294
We got the call we knew was coming first thing this morning to tell us our BIL had just passed away. Even when you know it’s coming, it doesn’t make it any easier to take in really. My son decided that he wanted to go to school so I sent a message to his school just to make them aware in case he got upset in class.
I grabbed something my SIL needed and cracked on with a bit of work until my OH was ready to go round to see his sister and the family. The carers were there and they’d just dressed our BIL ready for him to leave his home for the last time. We were all together until the undertakers arrived in the afternoon just before I needed to be home for my son. All of the hospital stuff can’t be collected until next Thursday which isn’t ideal for my SIL but it is what it is.
I got to try my son’s scones and raised a large glass to my BIL. It’s always been a bit strange having a BIL who is older than my Dad, it’s made him feel more than a BIL my own age I think. I shall really miss his wit and wisdom and his smile.
Saturday 23rd October – Day 295
Fudge decided that I needed to sit down and be sat on. I think we’re all a bit numb right now. It’s been an emotional few weeks with everything that’s been going on.
Talking of Fudge, his hormones have totally kicked in since Pippi had her op and we spend all of our time pulling him off of her. It’s not something I’ve experienced before but I can now confirm that cats are rather like rabbits!!! And the vet doesn’t want to give him the snip for 1-2 more months. It’s going to be fun trying to keep them apart, but clearly, we get Pippi done just in the nick of time.
I’m taking time away from the blog to spend with family. I have some reviews to write up but they are on hold for at least the next week. Take care of those you love and appreciate the little moments in life. It’s very precious.