I’ve just finished reading The Distance Between Us by Georgie Capron and wanted to tell you all about it. Released earlier this year through Aria Fiction, this is the third novel from the author and someone I’ve only recently discovered.
We meet Tasha, a stay at home mother of three, and wife of Charlie for eleven years. She happily left her job as a GP when they started a family, whilst her husband remained in a successful position in the city. From the outside they look like they have it all, great relationship, happy children, lovely home. But as anyone whose been in a long-term relationship will know, it’s very easy to take those you love for granted.
Tasha is the one who keeps everything at home on an even keel, rarely getting a moment to herself, whilst her husband breezes in and out with barely a backwards glance. She doesn’t feel appreciated or listened to, when Charlie comes home from work late, tired and distracted. They’ve become distant from each other and perhaps their marriage isn’t as perfect as she’d thought.
She’s been looking forward to a girlie night our with friends for ages and when Charlie is late leaving work her plans for the evening are dashed. His flippant response makes her feel undervalued and uncared for. The events of this evening will have disastrous effects for all concerned.
We read on as Tasha’s actions lead to upset and recriminations as her whole world falls apart. Trust is lost and communication breaks down. Can Tasha and Charlie ever get back what they’ve lost?
The Distance Between Us is a good read and certainly keeps you turning the page to see how and if the couple can repair their relationship and save their marriage. It’s a story line that in parts I can certainly empathise with, it’s very easy to stop communicating and appreciating what others do within a relationship.
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I don’t think I’ve ever been taken for granted, as I’ve always made a point of living my own life, so I’ve never needed to develop a strategy to cope with it.
Communication is the key
Some things between parent and child should be taken for granted but, as for the rest, start with honest conversations then try withholding.
I try to get the whole family involved with all activities possible
i try and make it equal between me and my partner who does things! i also get the kids involved too in little chores so they can learn how t look after themselves!
Now and again, I take a day just for myself and my husband notices all the things that have not been done!
I would like to think I’m not taken for granted we do all chip in but I guess i do the majority .
make sure everyone has a equal amount of chores to do in the house
Tell them how you feel.
Go on ” necessary duty only ” – hot meal on the table – no treats no ironing and no outings – the family soon get the drift and start pulling their weight
Communicating is important and getting the family to help around the house too
I live on my own sadly so I have to fend for myself. I have family nearby though.
Just get the whole family involved
I go on strike until they finally notice that things are not being done, it sometimes takes a while, they seem not to notice the mess!
Go on strike and cry. I like the adult approach
hide in the shed from the girls
i try to live by an even pace and regular events
I mak sure i am not lumbered with certain jobe like ironing. Everybody does their own
just honest open conversation
Good communication and everyone having their own jobs.
i stop cleaning so it gets messy and i say you can tell im the only one who cleans up
I’m lucky I don’t often feel as though I’m taken for granted, but if I do I find it best just to be open and honest and talk to everyone about how I feel.
We all take our fair share of the house, we all have our own rooms to clean
I’m not taken for granted, we have are own specific tasks.
if I ever feel like I am being taken for granted I talk it through with my husband and son
Making sure someone makes me dinner at least twice a week.
We have a rota board so that everyone does their fair share
I make sure I have time out for myself
If i feel like i am being taken for granted, I sulk lol. I get everyone to do everything I would normally do so they can see what it is i actiually do
By making sure I have some time to myself whether its even just a walk, a nice long soak in the bath or coffee with the girls x
Get everyone involved, get some music on to make it fun, and communicating when things feel tougher
I haven’t really thought about it that way to be honest. It has to be others responsibility to make sure you are not taken too much for granted … otherwise there will be no tea on the table or clean clothes to wear 😉 x
By dropping hints – sometimes not subtle when necessary
By making sure we get time together without kids, so can see how clean it is!
By communicating & sharing the chores out evenly.
When I find out I’ll be back to let you know, seriously though, I try to get time on my own to counter the relentless demands
Communication , compromise , patience and lots of love
I don’t know what to do. I am taken for granted :/
Communicate as much as possible!
I make sure and speak up about what needs to be done instead of just getting on with it myself
Try and get everyone do their own washing up and then its not all down to me !
Make sure that household chores are assigned equally between my partner and I!
Teach my kids the importance of please and thank you!
Make showing appreciation for what others do a part of every day life. I always say thank you for little or big things and my partner does the same.
Let them all know how much I appreciate their help and have fun doing anything together – even washing up or cleaning the bathroom!
Both before and after children hubby and I have always worked hard at being equal members of a team.
equeal shares all round plus yes please and no thank you
I just have expectations of behaviour which they follow reasonably well 🙂
I don’t think I am taken for granted. When I feel like I am I have a chat with the kids or my fella and discuss things x
We share the things that are done so we all feel appreciated and no one feels taken for granted
I’m not sure I’ve worked it out myself yet!
Make sure everyone helps with chores around the house
Make sure everyone in the family is involved.
Now and again, I throw my toys out of the pram and have a strop but generally I’m not very good at asserting my position – and I do get taken for granted quite a lot…
I have a large family so Iv’e always made sure we all chip in together to tidy etc
Good communication means nobody feels taken for granted.
I ensure others do things around the houe
I’ve never felt like that. We all have our own roles around the house. I have to make sure I dont take others for granted tho!
Try to encourage others to help me, doesn’t always work though!
I try to get the whole family involved
making sure we always communicate
Teach my family to be self sufficient.
There are specific tasks which are done by the others – the majority is mine but my husband is doing the vacuuming, the dishwasher, etc and my daughter is doing pairing of socks, and tidying her room
I always try to be honest and encourage the kids to do the same. communication is key
Sometimes I get my kids to help out with chores so they can see just how long these things take.
We communicate and share tasks
If I do feel I’m being taken for granted I ‘go on strike’ until someone else does the washing, cooks the dinner etc
We talk to each other, and try not to sweat the small stuff, we all like to have ‘me time’ that helps
Encourage expressions of gratitude, thankfulness, compassion, etc. Aim towards an attitude and acceptance of we are all individuals, sharing time, space, resources, etc. So good to learn a good variety of tasks, etc :- So as to build up some independence, and self reliance. Rather than depend on another. Can then take turns with tasks, treat an individual to a “Rest Day “, manage if someone is ill, or needs to be elsewhere, etc.
We are together through choice, love and respect for one another is important. By learning tasks and building up skills we become enabled, less dependent, and can share or divide necessary tasks. Strengthens the whole group:- I hope.
I delegate tasks within the household, sometimes you don’t realise how much actually goes into things unless you have done it yourself, so I have always encouraged the kids to help so that they do appreciate what I do.
Well I just separated from my husband after years of just this….so that was my solution!
All I ask from my daughter is to work hard at school and in return she can take me for granted all she likes,
Expect everyone to get stuck in, we help each other and work as a team
I make sure everyone helps around the house so it doesn’t feel like I am the only one doing all the work
As we both work we tend to take it in turns to cook the evening meal.I do find i do the lions share of housework and occasionally have to say something, to make things fair with the workload.
Talking things through, having in depth conversations.
I always let my other half know if I am not feeling appreciated and he always do his best to not make me feel like that he will always help with the chores and jobs that need doing xx
We always talk to each other
we always say ‘I Love You’ and never go to bed mad
the occasional strike 🙂
We talk about it, it’s never going to be perfect but it has to be about listening & compromise
Occasionally I’ll ask other people in the family to do a job I do, as a one off. They’re always surprised at how time consuming it is and how I do it without complaining!
I don’t really feel like I am that much but I just will ask for some help sometimes!
Communicating properly and letting people know how i am feeling
Ask if I need help, but we share tasks pretty equally
I make sure my hubby and kids help out too!
I make sure my family help me do daily tasks in the household
hubby helps out a lot!
We split all tasks 50/50
Everyone has their own jobs and that helps a lot.
I go away for a couple of days and then everyone misses me
We have family discussions of what is expected in the house & rules are reminded if forgotten.
Not enough it seems 🙁
Hmmm I guess lots of us feel taken for granted from tine to time. I suppose the best way to avoid/change this would be to voice your feelings and make sure that others know what is expected of them, and visa versa.
Honesty is the key to everything.
I make sure my children are independent and appreciate things I do for them time to time.
I always made meal times a time for family, no T V etc so everyone had a chance to talk surprising how good it was at making everyone appreciate each other. Plans where made, differances sorted, grievances aired with love and laughter.
being honest when things get too much and making time for each other every day
I’ve never really had this problem either but I agree sith the communication being a key thing for everyone
If I ever felt taken for granted I would make sure I spoke to the family about it and keep communicating.
I try and have really open communication and say if I need help or if I we need to take turns doing things etc..
I have never really had that problem, but if I did I would explain how I felt and hopefully that would make them think
It doesn’t always work, but we try to encourage the children put their own toys away so they know jobs don’t just happen by magic.
I make sure everyone gets involved and if I ever feel like I’m taken for granted I will tell them how I feel
I expect the “boys” (husband and toddler) to pull their weight and will go out if they don’t seem to be getting off their bums!
I often feel I am taken for granted and don’t really do anything about it
I tell my husband but he doesn’t really listen.
I often feel like that and I usually keep it to myself
I am definitely taken for granted at home 🙁
I don’t think I am taken for granted, but I feel like my Mum is a lot, so I try my best to help her out
I try to get the kids to help around the house!
I think I do get taken for granted by my children, but not by my husband. He knows how hard I work and we try to spilt chores etc between us so neither of us feels taken for granted.
I think the only ones who took me for granted is the kids and no mater how much I asked for simply things like don’t use a bath sheet to dry your hair with it never worked. They are all grown up now but my son still knows that if he asks me or his dad to do anything we will. I think most of it is just being parents and kids push you to your limits daily. The trick is not to let it get to you otherwise it will wear you down.
Sadly I have to but don’t always like to say No! Not that I mind helping people especially my children but, there is only so many hrs in a day.
Everyone has chores and takes turns cooking, washing up etc. Xx
Not really thought about it, perhaps I need to invest in this book!
I think a good level of communication is essential and let people know whats bothering you.
make sure that everything is shared and also say NO when you want to
I am not sure I do anything actually – I am worried now that I am being taken for granted
Have a little rota
get the whole family involved
I communicate when something bugs me I speak out … I also ask for help
I make sure my children know that they are lucky to receive the things they do and go the places we go. I have been a bit of a doormat but now I make sure IIstand up for myself. My ex took me for granted for 13 years before we broke up.
Taken for Granted is a part of close relationships – we all take for granted that our loved ones are there for us, and are doing their best for us. as we do for them – it is a two way street. We all do things for eachother without needing to be thanked constantly – that would get a bit wearing from both sides.I dont feel taken for granted when I do things for my family – I enjoy doing things for my family because that is love, and love doesnt need fanfares x
Everyone plays a part so nobody gets taken for granted, plus appreciation showed to everyone helps a lot 🙂
At home I don’t feel like I am being taken for granted as we all muck in together. xx
Communicate with the rest of the family! Deffo helps
Tell them how you feel. Communication.
We seem to have grown into different household roles. I try not to worry too much about the housework, it will get done at some point!
I will go on strike until they realise that the house is a mess
I do try and set an example of not taking others for granted.
Make sure that I’m not the one doing all the work – it is evenly distributed!
I think it’s key to let people know, but not in a whiny, nagging way – just talk to each other!
I think, although sometimes very hard, you have to be honest and communicate. It’s so easy to keep quiet just to keep the peace even though you’re distraught on the inside. It’s hard for someone to put something right if they don’t know what they’ve done wrong.
mostly have a strop about doing all the laundry!! but on a more positive note i arrange days out walking where we are all together and get the chance to have fun where i don’t feel the need to to tidy and feel grumpy about it!
Communication and sharing responsibilities
Everyone chips in so that I don’t get left to pick up after everyone and avoid feeling that way
We are all pretty good at getting the chores done. But occasionally I am left to do everything. If it goes on for too long I go away for the day, just myself. No washing done, nothing in for tea. They then realise how much I actually do and I have a lovely day out.
by teaching my 7 year old to be a little independent, she can make her breakfast and sandwiches etc, getting both girls to help with chores. Hubby knows his job lol like putting bins out, cutting grass, cleaning up after himself and ironing his own shirts he is out about 12 hours a day working while im at home.
To be honest, i find it impossible, I have four sons and somehow the chores never seem to be done!
Communication is the key x
My daughter (6 yrs) has a list of jobs she can help with and a list of rewards (all based around time doing things together)
I get the kids involved. Even if it’s something small it really helps.
I try to get everyone involved with the chores
I don’t think I have been but think good communication is important